Self-permission

We often forget that we, too, are a part of nature. When one doesn't understand that, we are unconsciously riding the waves and conditions that nature lays out for us.

When a flower smells aromatic, a delicacy tastes sumptuous, situations result in favorable circumstances or basically when we get into a particularly pleasurable situation - We then permit ourselves to feel pleasure.

On the other hand, when a flower smells pungent, a food-item tastes horrid, situations result in unfavorable circumstances or when we get into a particularly painful situation - We then permit ourselves to feel pain.

Our travel through life flickers between these two poles of pleasure and pain. We delight, chase and savor pleasure while it lasts. We evade, shirk and despair pain while it lasts. But ultimately, like a pendulum, life is a path where pain and pleasure trades each other off. One cannot exist without the other. There is only pain with pleasure as background; Likewise, there is only pleasure with pain as background.

Let's talk about the typical romance story: A girl meets a guy. Guy and girl start permitting pleasure as a result of favorable experiences. They are using each other as permission slips for feeling pleasure, and calling it love.

When we are pleasurable emotionally, we call it love and compassion. When we are pleasurable physically, we call it health. When we are pleasurable mentally, we call it happiness. In other words, love is not some force that drops out of the sky, but something you permit yourself to feel.

Too much drama happens in the name of "love".

If you think about it logically, they are really just games of fantasy. One side has a certain perspective, so does the other. Each are fighting for more pleasure instead of pain. But both sides do not realize that the problem starts with themselves.

For example, girl thinks guy gave her love before. Hence, when girl closes herself up from this pleasurable sensation, girl thinks that guy has stopped showing her love. Girl wants to see actions from guy so that she can allow herself to feel love.

If you think about it here, it is irrational. How can you expect someone to do something, so that you can feel pleasurable?

True love is not something you can give to another person. Love is simply pleasure. When one bares one's heart completely, allowing all expectations to fall away - Then right there, one is able to feel pleasure.

Love is self-permitted. It cannot be given, just permitted. It is simply a matter of whether one truly loves oneself, because in order to truly love, one has to love oneself first.